Monday, May 07, 2007

Radical Personal Responsibility...

... and the Way of the Enlightened Warriror

I really know what it feels like when circumstances seem to be dictating my behavior. Believe me, I've been there... a lot. Sometimes it gets really tough to feel like you have any choices in life. The trick is to realize that it's all choices. There's nothing but choices, and that's where your power resides.

Patience through the tough stuff. It'll pass. You're still in your power. It doesn't mean you can control everything, but it does mean you can acknowledge your choices. Realize that everything you're doing is a choice you're making... even if it's a choice you don't like... and thus you are still in your power. As soon as you start believing you are not choosing your actions, then you fall into the victim role, and are literally handing your power over to someone or something else.

Something my EFT and life coach, Paul Cutright, taught me last week is that when people don't control themselves they invite others to control them. Institutions take control of their lives, or people treat them harshly to try to keep them in check. A warrior is not someone who conquers others, but someone who conquers themselves. Meaning, they've conquered the things inside themselves that stop them from going for what they want. You're in your power when you know that everything you do is a choice you are making... even if you don't like the choice... And that's okay. Just know that you are growing towards being able to make other choices you prefer. This is radical personal responsibility.

Taking radical personal responsibility means letting go of blame... even of blaming yourself... and taking action to rectify to the best of your ability... and the ability of the people you recruit to help you. The reason it's radical is because the cultural norm is to blame, and you are breaking that norm... even if you look powerless in comparison to others... because you know you're choosing.

When you go to Harv Eker's "Enlightened Warrior Training Camp" on the first day you sign an agreement. One of the items in that agreement is " I agree to be responsible for my own learning and results. I agree not to complain, blame, or play the victim." Another one is "I agree to be kind and encourage myself and my fellow warriors and not judge or criticize anyone or anything." It sets the space for radical personal responsibility. You still acknowledge your challenges, you just don't bother blaming them on anyone. It's amazing how good it feels to do that!

Since attending Warrior I have succeeded in retraining myself to do this as a matter of daily course. Now when I make a mistake I don't even bother wasting my energy making an excuse. I just say "I'm sorry, I have no excuse. How can I help fix this?" In the past, at my worst, I would try and make it look like it was my client's fault that I missed a deadline, or that I got sick, or that they asked too much of me, or whatever. So part of it is to not take on more commitments than you can follow through on. Under-commit, over-acheive.

Also, I used to be paralyzed when it came to taking action. I was a perfectionist, which means I did almost nothing. Everything had to be just so in order for me to take anything on, and even then I'd hum and haw and avoid because I was afraid of screwing it up, I was afraid to say "no" and so would commit to stuff I didn't want to do, didn't know how to do, didn't have time to do... and I felt completely controlled by people and events, and was constantly dropping the ball, getting in trouble (ie. people getting mad at me for not living up to my commitments). Now I say no. Now I do what I said I would do because I only commit to things I know I will do, will have time to do, will have motivation and desire to do. Sounds selfish but really I'm doing everyone a favor because this means I'm not letting people down left right and center... including myself.

Harv's seminars have literally transformed me. I can't say enough about them. And the beauty of it is he gives his introductory 3 day seminar (valued at over $1200) away for a very low cost... The cost of his book... at the time of this writing If you buy the book you get 2 free tickets... and if you go to this seminar you will be offered an serious discount on the Enlightened Warrior Training Camp seminar (as well as any other of Harv's seminars you're interested in). This introductory seminar touches on many aspects of the Enlightened Warrior seminar and is primarily focused around creating a personal transformation of your fears and hangups around money that prevent you from creating the security and abundance you want. It's called "Millionaire Mind Intensive". All you've gotta do is show up and enjoy. It's a fun and fascinating and enlightening weekend. I came out of there full of creativity, seeing opportunity everywhere I look.

This fall I'll be attending Harv's "Ultimate Leadership Training Camp" which is a big deal for me since I'm a majorly introverted lone wolf, do it all yourself kind of guy... which is seriously stunting the growth of my business! So leadership ho! Here I come!:-) Time for a new growth spurt!

Anyway, you can learn more about the Millionaire Mind seminar and the principles it teaches you (at a very deep level I might add) at the following links:
Click here to buy the book and get your 2 free tickets.
Click here to participate in the teleclass (this is a short seminar given over the phone).
Click here to check out a live evening seminar in your area.

Scott Mooney
Personal Breakthrough Coach
Time heals all, EFT heals it faster.


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